Just When Things Were Getting Back To Normal

WOW! Said #1 and #2 still in the picture. Just an FYI nothing is ever going to be the same--just because she came and had lunch with you today doesn't mean she likes you--#2 maybe, actually, yes, I know she likes and misses #2 very much. They have been friends for a very long time until #1 came into the picture. But #1, NOPE! :) Oh well, she's just bored, poor thing. Hopefully that will all be resolved soon so she can stay away from the evil fat ugly bitch! Can't wait to tell my friends about this one! LOL

:)

So the situation at hand has calmed down a bit--or so everyone thinks. I'm not going to cause any intentional trouble, I'm just not going to post anything on FB. This blog is my outlet and if I want to write and vent here I will and if people don't like it, well then, they don't have to read it. My mom finally talked to me and told me that she does support me but wished I wasn't so opinionated. And that if she tells me she doesn't like someone or something that they do or a quirk of theirs that I need to keep it between us. And I know this, and I had kept it between us for a LONG time that she didn't care for said person but I just was pushed to the breaking point of where I was either going to punch her in the throat the next time I saw her or I had to tell her "hey guess what?--my parents hate you too!" :-) Because let me tell you, that made me sooooooo much better. Knowing it was one thing, but to get it out and say it and now to have her know it---ah, sweet release! I've decided to not talk to other said person at lunch table now either. Evidentally I should have seen all along that she was two faced--but I didn't. She would say shit about said person #1 when she wasn't there, but never to her face--then when stuff like this happens she acts all buddy buddy and they form aliances, LOL. Whatever. I think it's funny--and yup I'm gonna continue to talk about them. Not at work or on work time because my union president said that would get me in trouble. But anything I say on my own time using my own computer and such is my business. And well--no names, so................. :-D
Oh, and because I do know that said persons #1 and #2 are still reading this because they are nosey as nosey can be I just want to make something clear that #1 said. She said that I was "losing friends all over the place by the things that I was doing." Um, I can't lose friends, when they weren't my friends to begin with--just as an FYI. The psycho who dated my cousin, wasn't my friend, she kept me company and filled a void when my real friends were busy. When she went psycho and drama insued I was done. Not sure who else you are talking about--never really considered #1 and #2 friends, we never did anything outside of work like friends do, never shared deep dark secrets or anything extraordinarily personal that everyone else didn't already know. So, yeah, wouldn't consider them friends. But anyway, just wanted to clarify that before you make it sound like I just make friends then throw them away, because that is NOT at all what I do. Like I've said before, I have my friends, I have had them for many many years--I intend to keep them. I don't need anymore.

Hurt

I've been thinking about this since last night and I think what I am most pissed off about is the fact that no one is backing me up. Especially my mom. I finally told said person that I didn't like her--I don't, why not tell her. If someone didn't like me I would want to know, and the reason's why. What gets me is that my mom and our other 'friend' that sit at the same lunch table talk shit about said person when she's not there ALL the time, but when it comes time to actually face the facts and admit it, they won't. What the fuck! What are they scared of? I already told her they talk about her--stop making me look like a liar and admit what you said. No one likes confrontation, especially me, but there does come a time when things need to be said. I've said it a 100 times today--if it were me and my daughter, I would back her 100% because she comes before any of my friends regardless of who they are. I would simply tell them that that is who she is, she is strong willed, opinionated and at times very bitchy, but she's my daughter and I love her and I'm going to have to side with her. And yes, I have said shit about you. And no I don't like to always sit with you at lunch and I think you ask to many questions and can't mind your business. Come on, how hard is it to say that? I know everyone has told me to let it go, but I can't--and I'm not going to until my mom sides with me and finally admits that said person is a bitch and that she doesn't want to have anything to do with her anymore. She has other friends, why in Gods name does she need more--and especially this one? Uck!

Ugh

Yup, second post of the day. Frustrated because I hate stupid people. I would really like to punch them in the face, I think that would make me feel sooooooooo much better or maybe watch them get punched in the face or even run over by a car. Hhhhhmmm--no no, dropped from a plane with no parachute onto cement. Aahhh, I'm feeling better. Deep breaths now. :) It's amazing how some people can get you so worked up just by thinking about them--there was only one other person I think that did that to me. I got over her though--I don't think I'm the only one she did it to though, there is a group of us who wish she would just slit her wrists, lol. Ok, I think my angst level is dropping. Time to make lunches for my day at the DAYCARE tomorrow :) woohoo!

Another Day at the 'DAYCARE'

People continue to humor me, and I'm lovin every single minute of it :) Let's face the facts and the reality of life. People talk about people--it's called gossip. I know people talk about me, whether they admit it or not. My friends, my family, whatever, it's fine. I talk about people too--I enjoy it. I also enjoy, immensly when someone knows I am talking about them, but can't really do anything about it. I'm not threatening or harrassing, I don't do it during work and well, I NEVER mention names. I'm excercising my right to freedom of speech to say what I want about whomever I want whenever I want :-D Can it be hurtful? Yup, at times it sure can be--but such is life, get over it. Can I be a bitch? The biggest. Am I out to make friends? Hell no. I have my friends, I don't want or need anymore. My friends know who I am and love me for it. I started this blog to keep family and friends updated on the kids and then it grew into an outlet for me to vent about stupid people that get on my nerves and I kind of like that. I also have a facebook account--I write what I'm thinking there also. And no, you don't have to 'watch what you write' if you don't want someone to see it, block them. I have a very long list of people who are blocked from my account that can't see anything I write, and I have a feeling I'm going to be adding more--nosey backstabbing fucks at work. Anyway, that's what I have to say about that today. I'm sure there will be more tomorrow because other people let things fester and brew and won't leave it alone and go and talk to everyone else about what's going on--and LIE. "I would never do anything like that" MY ASS.

Trouble Makers

I can be a trouble maker. I have no problem admitting it. There are certain people I know I can get to by saying or doing or writing certain things, so I do--just to start trouble. But when I do it, it never jeopardizes anyones relationship with a spouse or a friend, or puts there job at risk. Now, there are other trouble makers who are out to intentionally hurt people and start shit because they think they are more important then everyone else, they're not, but that's what they think. Case in point. Someone at work was promoted--I found out about it from my MOTHER. I was at the lunch table when said person says "oh did you hear so and so made director?" I said "oh that's old news!" (being an obnoxious bitch because I can :)) She then assumed I had heard it from a friend that works in another department and went and ran her mouth and almost got my friend in trouble. I said ALMOST--she didn't. :-p Just because someone knows something WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY before you doesn't give you the right to go and try to get someone fired over it--geez, grow up! I know ALOT of stuff about work that I don't tell ANYONE, not even my Mom because I don't want this certain person to accidentally find out. I'm sure she thinks she knows, LOL, she doesn't :-)
Anyway, those are the types of trouble makers I don't like. If you want to be a bitch and do something to irk someone because you know it gets on their last nerve that's one thing--but to TRY and get someone fired--NOT cool. And quite frankly won't get you anywhere but further on my, or our, bad side.

Growing Up and Growing Old

When I last wrote I was called away immediately for an emergency at my Grandparents house. It so happens that my Grandfather fell and broke his hip and ended up needing surgery to put a rod and two pins in. To make matters worse it was on his amputated leg :-/ My mother was away visiting my dad in WA state so that left my aunt and I to hold down the fort. Someone needed to stay with my Grandmother at all times due to her having alzheimers. It has been a long week and half, but we managed and all is well. Well, if that is what you call getting old :)

Gramps seems to be doing good, up and moving around, which is awesome. Gram, well, she is not Gram anymore and hasn't been for a long time. Her 'shell' is still Gram, but she, herself left along time ago. It is hard to see her like that. This is a women who use to do so much. She use to bowl, play cards, knit, crochet, drive herself here there and everywhere. Play kickball and football with my youngest cousin and help me when I was a struggling new mom and didn't know which way was up. She would come and feed my daughter and change her and just cuddle her while this over-tired new mom slept. And now, well, if you ask her what she had for lunch five minutes after she ate it, she will tell you something like "well that's ok, we could do something like that out there if you want." Um, yeah, ok. She's here, but she's gone. Alzheimers sucks!

Then there is my Grandfather who would do anything for me, for anyone really, but especially for me. I was (am) his "Queenie" and could do no wrong in his eyes. Even when I was in high school giving my parents a run for their money, I could always go to him. When I got pregnant before I was married, I was scared to death to tell him--but he still loved me, and I still sat pirched high upon that pedistal where I have been since birth. (Did I mention I'm the only Granddaughter in the family?) He would take me to Vermont, just he and I. Or to Westerly for the day. Tell me stories about his past and growing up in New Haven. Being in the Navy. Working at EB. I have heard all these stories a 100 times in my life, but I never stop him, I just let him go on and he smiles. And now, he is frail. In a hospital bed. Weak. But what brings a smile to his face? Seeing his family. Seeing me and the kids come down, even for a little while. He knows this is the last chapter to his novel, you can see it in his eyes. It's a sad, far away look he gets.

Sometimes he doesn't want to eat. We try and coax him with his favorite foods from outside establishments, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I don't know if he doesn't want to eat, because he doesn't want to go on, and he doesn't know how to say that. When he was home, before he fell, there were times when he said he wasn't going to take his medicine anymore. My mom and aunt would tell him "oh yes you are!" Why? He is a grown man, it is his life, right? I am a believer in letting everyone lead their own life. Regardless of how old they are. And regardless of what the outcome of their decisions may be. When I am 83 and I decide I no longer want to take medicine, and I am fully aware of the consquences of my decisions I hope that my children respect that decision. Before you go and judge me. Or before you and say "you don't know what it's like to watch someone you love suffer and die." I do. I know oh too well. At my young age (yes 32 is still considered young! lol) I have seen my fair share of death already. I have sat in a hospital room and watched as my uncle died of lukemia after fighting for 6yrs and then there was finally nothing more that could be done. That was one of the most touching times in my life. Our whole family stayed at the hospital for his final days. Yes, days. He was so strong, his heart, it was days until he finally passed. My Nana was still alive and she had to watch her son die. I don't think a mother should ever have to do that, no matter how old the child. Then there was my Nana. She suffered a stroke. She was in the nursing home for months--not knowing who she was or where she was, literally deteriorating right before our very eyes until she died. Both were slow deaths. I also lost another uncle, those circumstances are little more complicated and tragic so I'm not going to write about it here. And then there is my best friends father. He also suffered a stroke and battled for along time. I was honored that the family allowed me in the room for what were some of his final moments. He was like another father to me, as the family is a second family. So, yes, I do know what it is like to watch someone you love suffer and die right before your very eyes. And I am still a believer that it is their life to do with what they will. As hard as it is on us left behind it is harder on the ones who leave us.

Birthday Week

So, Monday was my b-day :) The big 3-2 lol! Although I was telling everyone I was 21 again :-) How fast 10yrs have gone by--seems like just yesterday I was 22 and pregnant with Skyler thinking "Oh my God! In 10yrs she will be turning ten years old and I'm going to be THIRTY TWO!!! AAAAHHH!!!" And now it's here, and it doesn't seem so bad. Quite frankly I don't feel much different now then I did 10yrs ago, aside from a few surgeries I've had that have set me back here and there, inside, mentally, I feel the same. Not sure if that is a good thing or not, lol. So much has taken place in my life over the past 10yrs. I have had two children, gotten married, lived in two different states, traveled across the country-twice! Renewed my wedding vows in Vegas, purchased a home and have lived apart from my husband and have been raising my children virtually as a single mother for the past four out of the last ten years! Not to mention all the traveling I (we) have done back and forth to Hawaii and/or New Mexico--whew! I'm just tired thinking about it :)

Well, I was going to write more--but alas I am needed at the Grandparents immediately. Stay tuned!

Getting rid of the TRASH and movin on

So, last night I decided I was done with the drama. I don't care about the other two involved. I really don't. I can honestly say that if they were in need of help on the side of the road bleeding from every oraface of their body, I would drive right on by. Is that being a good person, nope. But would they stop for me? I'm going to venture a guess and say no. Now don't get me wrong, if it were one of their children that needed help and was injured or what have you, absolutely I would step up, no questions asked. Because again, the kids have nothing to do with the ridiculousness that has been tossed around the past few weeks over something so stupid. Even the girls know it's stupid. Rhonda's daughter has said to mine and Lori's "I know it's wasn't your Mom's fault I couldn't get in." How sad is that, that a child knows that her own mother was wrong? Anywho :) I'm moving along, I don't need people like them in my life who cause un-needed stress and drama. I have removed and blocked them from my facebook account and have no intention have even acknowleding them out in public or at school events. My children of course can still socialize and speak with theirs, if they still allow that, which they probably wont because that is what type of people ALL of them are--but whatever, my kids don't need to be around people like that either. So, here is to the start of a new day with no drama, no trash and no bitches---other than me :)

Just An FYI

Just thought I would let you know (M&R) because I know you are reading this and that you, Melissa, copied one of my blogs about Lori and sent it to her, LOL, that I do not write anything on my page that she doesn't already know. But, um, nice try--thanks :) Like she said, if I say, or write something about someone, her included, it is probably warranted and deserved. I do not sugar coat anything and if I think you are being retarded and acting in a manner that I don't like, well, yup, I'm gonna write about it. So, you go right ahead and tell her whatever it is you want to try and pit us against each other because whatever it is she has already heard it all first hand.

Rhonda--Melissa Wtfd Drama At It's Best!

So, the drama continues--SURPRISE! Why wouldn't it? After all, I (we) are dealing with immature, stuck up, Waterford mother's who think their shit don't stink! And, before I go on, yes, I am a Waterford mother, however, not from here, and never claimed to be like some--and certainly don't act it. And yes, that is most certainly a stereotype in the worst way, but I am calling it as I see it. Don't act better then everyone else and perhaps you wont be called a stuck up bitch :)

Anywho--moving along. My Girl Scout co-leaders husband (did you follow that?) wrote an OPINION article in the paper about one of the mother's, Rhonda, who has caused all of this drama. Of course there were comments made in regards to it, and for the most part everyone is on the side of the article. I finally got 'fedup' and decided to comment myself. Due to the simple fact that Rhonda is LYING. Plain and simple. Get over yourself already--admit that maybe once in your life (more than likely many times) you fucked up and take the blame. I know I fuck up all the time--oops, oh well, my bad. Move along. NEXT. You are just another person like the rest of us that makes mistakes, but unlike the rest of us you are failing to own them. I feel incredibly bad for the peopl who work for you--I really do. I would hate for you to be my boss--you were only there for what, a week and fired how many people? Really?!?!? Probably not necessary--did you even TRY to talk to them first? I'm gonna say no--because that is not you, you are just a bitch. And quite frankly everyone in Waterford knows it. You mention your name and people cringe. I know I'm a bitch and that there are many who don't like me, and that's ok--I have my friends, and I am not out there to make any more. I don't need or want anymore.

And then there is Melissa who responded to the article 'tuppergirl06385' maybe she thought nobody would know that was her? Not sure--but I'm pretty sure it is. Anyway, she wanted to know why Lori's husband was airing his dirty laundry. Um, he wasn't airing HIS dirty laundry, he was airing Rhonda's :) Did ya not read the article? Everything was about her and the nasty voicemail she left Lori, that was totally and completely uncalled for--and the fact that she did it in front of her children--not cool. I believe that everyone needs to know exactly what type of person they are dealing with--afterall Rhonda is the VP of the PTA at Southwest--I mean really--is this someone you really want holding a position like that? What type of role model is she? She puts on an act for everyone she meets--I know when I first met her I thought she was really nice and wanted to get to know her more. AH! That was a huge mistake--talk about Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde!

Well, that is my rant/vent for right now :) There is plenty more I have to say on this topic, and plenty more I will say. But, right now I have to get my daughter ready to go sell GS cookies.

My Daughter

I was going to write more about how certain people continue to irritate me and the fact that they can't see how foolish they are being and really just need to grow the f@#k up. But, instead I'm going to write about my daughter. She plays the violin and sings in the chorus at school and had two concerts yesterday. I went to both, and she amazed me at both of them. She was also chosen, hand selected, to sing in the All-El chorus next month. She has a beautiful voice, which I can take absolutely no credit for, and has come a long way on the violin. Not only is she good at these two things, but she is also fiercly talented on the soccer field. I watch her every Saturday out there and she never ceases to amaze me--again, I can take no credit for her athletic ability either :) My hope and wish for her is that she takes these talents and runs with them as far as she can. I know soccer is her passion, I can see it in her face when she is playing, she loves it and I love that she loves it. What I don't love, is that some coaches try to take that away from these kids and make it all about the win--when right now it's all about learning and getting better and growing as an individual athlete and team. Her coach is wonderful, some of the coaches that have tried to recruit her, well, I'll just leave it at that--yes, you read right, tried to recruit my 9yr old. And this is the first time either. Just let kids be kids and go out and have fun on the field--no need to bring politics into something so innocent that brings my kid, as well as many others, so much joy.
Keep up the good work Skyler--you are my sunshine and I love you!

TGIF!

I LOVE FRIDAYS!! Even when I'm not working, which currently I am not, I still love Fridays :) And today is a lovely Friday. I had originally planned on getting the kids on the bus, taking a shower and laying back down for the majority of the day today because I feel like poo and am exhausted--but that just didn't happen. I did get the kids on the bus, I did take a shower, and I did lay back down, but only for about an hour. Then I was called and asked if I would go to school to meet and discuss what is going on with all the GS drama--ugh--sure. So, I reluctantly drug myself off the couch and to the school for a rather elightening conversation :) I'm a bitch, but only when it's called for--and in this case I am soooo glad I haven't been a bitch because it is certainly not getting "THE" bitch anywhere, lol. Aaaahhh, life is good.

There are a few things that really annoy the crap out of me though and can ruin a perfectly good day, like today. One of them is interupting a good song on the radio to talk to me. If I turned it up I obviously like it and want to listen to it so please be respectful and wait until it is over--thanks! Another is smacking your food around in your mouth--totally unnecessary at all costs. Keep your mouth closed and chew quietly--there is ZERO reason why you need to chew your food like you are damn cow. If you want to chew like that you can kindly take your plate outside when animals belong chomp away--seriously?!?! When people think that watching House or Greys Anatomy qualifies them to be a Doctor themselves--WRONG! I know what is wrong or not wrong with me, as do my REAL doctors. Just because YOU have never heard of it before or YOU don't have such an ailment doesn't mean one doesn't exist--so please remember, as I stated in my status message on FB yesterday, unless you have an MD, PhD or DMD after your name you are NOT a doctor and quite frankly don't know shit :) When people are late. I can not stand when someone tells me they are going to be somewhere at a certain time then they don't show up for another 10-15mins. not cool! If you say, "hey, I'll be there at 5pm." That doesn't mean leave your house at 5pm--that means arrive to said destination at 5pm. Not complicated. Granted, I am notoriously early everywhere by 15-30mins. but still, being late is totally unacceptable in my book, and a HUGE pet peeve!

I'm sure I could think of a few more things to add to my ever growing list of things irk me--but, it's almost time to get the kids off the bus and I don't want to be late :)

I Believe......

I believe in may things. Some people may not agree with some of the things I believe in and that is ok with me because I may not agree with what they believe in either. For example, I believe in not sugar coating things for my children. I tell them how it is and that's it. I.E. if you ride your bike without a helmet and get hit by a car, chances are your head is going to get flattened and your brains are going to be spread all over the pavement and you will die. Therefore I strongly reccomend you wear your helmet. Some parents may think that is a little harsh. Why? It's reality, it's the truth. Why am I going to lie to my children and tell them something that isn't fact? I don't see the point in it. I am also a parent who tells my children that if they eat too much crap junk food, sit on the couch and watch too much tv or play video games and not get enough excercise they will get fat. Again, truth, not sugar coated--and a fact. Some may not agree with that approach because of todays society and the way girls look at themselves and what not. But along with telling them that, I also tell them that to stay healthy and keep fit they need to eat good for you, healthy food and stay active. I've talked to them about bulemia and anorexia and the consequences of them both, and that they could both potentially result in death. Again, very strait forward, to the point. If they have questions, I answer them to the best of my ability. The same goes with anatomy--no 'foo-foo' words for male and female genitalia. Girls have a vagina and boys have a penis--my kids have known that since they could speak. There is no "pee-pee" or "privates" or what have you. Call it what it is and move on. Again, this is what I believe, so this what I tell MY children. If someone doesn't like--OH WELL. I probably don't like your parenting skills either :)

Now, moving on to something else I believe in. The death penalty. I believe that if you are sentenced to death, you should be executed the same day or within 24hrs. No ifs, ands or buts about it. Again, my belief. I have had people say to me "what if that was your child who was accused of that crime." My answer, I have taught and continue to teach my children right from wrong. I also teach them that with every action there is a consequence you must deal with. Therefore if my child committs a crime and is found guilty of said crime and is sentenced to death--well, he or she was wrong and now must pay the ultimate consequence. I hope and pray everyday that I never, ever have to face this and that my children grow to be good upstanding, LAW OBIDING citizens.

What has lead me to write about a few of the things that I believe in is this last thing. I believe in fairness and equality to everyone. And I believe in this day and age that it is abundant everywhere for the most part regardless of ones race, color or creed. Incase anyone has forgotten, we do have an African American President. I also believe that if someone feels that they or their child is treated unfairly that it more than likely has NOTHING to do with their race, color or creed--but with other outlying aspects of the parent. And that if you really step back and look the child was NEVER treated any differently then any other child, ever. The parent, yes, maybe--but that has nothing to do with the color of skin, ethnic background or religious preference--but more than likely because of an attitude problem and thinking that they were above everyone else. Because my friend, let me tell you--NOBODY CARES WHAT COLOR YOU ARE--NOBODY!!!! And to try and pull a race card when the problem at hand has absolutely nothing to do with race, color or creed, but everything to do with you not getting your way--well, I believe that is just pure evil bitchiness, and is going to get your nowhere fast!

On a side note--I LOVE that my children, as most, see no color. If one of my kids is describing a person to me, they don't say "you know mom, the short black girl with glasses." They will say "you know mom, the short girl with glasses." It's us parents who put color in their heads and that is sad to me--just let them be. They are our new generation of free minded people who again, don't care what the other person looks like, or where they came from or how they talk--all they care about is if they can come over to play. And that is how it should be, always, just as simple as that. Can you come over to play?

Irritated

So, I'm a little irritated right now and instead of causing more hate and discontent by be catty and posting something on FB page I'm just going to write here. We had a GS meeting tonight, and the troop has dwindled down to 4 girls per my previous post. However, I've been noticing more and more lately that my co-leaders daughter gets pretty much whatever the hell she wants. WTF is up with that? All the girls have to stand outside in the cold and sell cookies--she cries and throws a fit and gets to go sit in the car. All the girls have to share their art projects they did, she gets extremely rude and disrespectful and says NO so her mom does it for her. Pretty much if she doesn't want to do it, she doesn't have to. I'm considered the "mean leader"--shocking, I know, lol--but that is because I don't sugar coat anything. I tell them how it is and how it's going to be and what the consequences are going to be if it's not done EXACTLY that way. Yeah, little miss prissy there does NOT like that at all! To that I say--TOO BAD! I told them all a couple weeks ago that from now on if they showed up anywhere GS related without there vests I would be personally removing a patch that they earned from their vest. If any of us adults were required to wear a uniform to work and kept showing up without it repeatedly we would be punished, right? She was none to happy with that--said the vest was too hot, it itched, it wasn't comfortable--again TOO BAD! Tonight I told them that while they were selling cookies they would STAND (OMG what a flippin concept!) SMILE and BE HAPPY oh and NOT complain or I would take away credits from them and money would be deducted from their cookie accounts. Seriously--if any of us showed up to work, complained to our boss' the whole time, sat or slouched on the job and asked every 5mins if it was time to go yet what do we think would happen to us? They are 10yrs old--old enough to take and accept responsibilty--I'm not asking them to do manual labor for 8-9hrs a day in the blistering heat--they are standing there asking people to buy friggin' cookies! AND earning 88cents a box for their accounts for field trips and what not at the same time. And typical day we rake in about 500 boxes--after dividing that among the girls and how long they are out there, on an average they can make $110 for 3hrs of doing NOTHING! UGH! I just so tired of the complaining from this one girl who is lazy and would rather sit in her room on her laptop or in front of the tv and eat ALL DAY then actually be outside doing something physical. And the icing on the cake today was when she yelled at my kid. My daughter was asking her a question for a project they were working on and the other girl told Skyler to shut-up and stop talking to her and that she was bothering her. Yeah, I stepped in. I said no she wasn't, she was asking you a question about what you are SUPPOSED to be doing--so quit complainging and picking on her and get to work, NOW! Yup, I was mean to a ten year old--whatever, don't fuck with my kid!

It's Been A While

It's been a while since I last blogged, I guess you could say that life kind of got in the way of my 'me' time. I think the only reason I am sitting down now and wanting or needing to write is because I need to vent. So much drama going on and it's all circulating around 10 year old girls! Yeah, you heard me, 10 year old girls. I mean, seriously! And Girl Scouts none-the-less. And, of course I'm being dragged right smack in the middle of it along with my daughter. Here is the way I see things. The leaders of the troop are there to organize events and lead the meetings--that's pretty much it. As parents it is our/your responsibility to make sure you are where you are supposed to be when you are supposed to be there, you have permission slips filled out when they are are supposed to be filled out and if you plan on attending an event you let the leader know, both with an email and verbally. The last is what has lead to this weekends drama. There was an event on Friday. Four emails were sent out asking who was going and needing a head count so that supplies could be purchased. One parent didn't email back, but said she gave a verbal confirmation that her daughter was going. Verbal didn't cut it because my co-leader has a million and one things going on in her life and can't remember who tells her what and when. So, she didn't add this particular child into the head count. When the night came and the event started this child was not allowed into participate because she was not on the list or what have you. The people sponsoring the event only purchased enough supplies for the number of children attending. Now, I am NOT defending anyone in this situation because I think everyone is at fault. If it were me (though I'm a little anal and OCD) as the parent I would have called, and emailed to check, double check and triple check to make sure my kid was getting into said event. If it were I who were sponsoring the event I would have just purchased more than enough supplies so that if extra girls showed up it wouldn't have been an issue. And lastly if it were me responding on behalf of the troop I would have just said the whole troop was coming whether they were or not just for GP and to cover supplies. But, I wasn't involved. So, it blew up. I can understand being upset, I really can. But again, their 10. Police reports were filed, two of the girls in our troop are being pulled and put in another troop (which I'm not sure how that is going to be better--there are still permission slips, you still have to RSVP to events or you can't go, but whatever) and now I'm being, actually we are ALL being dragged to North Haven to discuss shit that happened last year that other parents think was un-fair. Really?!?!?! I'm sorry, I don't recall yesterday, let alone last year. But what I do recall is that all the girls participated in the end of the year ceremony and the only reason one of them didn't get a certain patch was because she didn't complete the work that the others did to EARN it.

That's the other thing, some of these parents think Girl Scouts and/or Boy Scouts is just about getting together for sleepovers and seeing Kumbaya--WRONG! Yes, you are supposed to get together and have fun and what not, but you are also supposed to be making your way up a latter to reach the highest level. Girl Scouts, I believe is the Gold Award and Boy Scouts is the Eagle Scout. There is nothing wrong with teaching these kids about the real world and making them do some actual work. We are currently selling cookies :) I got into a discussion with a parent the other day who disagreed with me and the way we as a troop distributed the money the girls earned selling the cookies. You tell me what you think, which one is more FAIR! The way we do is: Say two girls are selling cookies--girl A sells for five hours, girl B sells for two hours. We take the number of boxes sold, and divide it--the girl who was there longer obviously gets more money put into her account then the girl who was only there for two hours, right? It's not fair for one girl to work 12hrs busting her butt selling cookies while another girl is only there for 45min and they get the same amount of money? I don't think so! So, this parent said it should be divided equally among the girls no matter how long the girls are at the booth sale for. What?!?!? Really?!?! So, I said to him (yup, it was a man, go figure, lol) ok, your wife is at work right now, and I'm not, so I should still get a paycheck? He said no, because I didn't belong to that "troop". Ok, I don't work where she does--but say I did. Say we worked at the same place--I went in and only worked for 30min and decided I wanted to go home, but she stayed for her entired shift, busted her ass and did what she was supposed to be doing. She EARNED her money--should she have to split it with me? His response? No, because that is different. LOL--NO IT'S NOT! It's the same thing! We are trying to teach these girls about life. What it's like to work and earn something and then reap the rewards of that. Why is that a bad thing? Yes, they are only 10--but start instilling it in them now and you won't have lazy adults who don't want to work later.

Frankly I don't care what happens right now because I think all parties involved are being retarded and childish. Let the girls decided what THEY want to do--it's not really up to us. Did it have to get to this point? No. But that is not just one person's fault--it's everyone's fault. More communication would have helped. Respond to emails when asked--it's not that hard. Send a text, pick up the phone. Could I have done more? Sure. But seeing as I was roped into this job in the first place I think I am doing just enough. Ontop of the fact that the list of things that I do far out weighs everyone elses by a long shot. I stretch myself pretty thin, I think the other parents can do the same for their kids.

Anyway, this is hopefully the last year we will be doing this. Skyler is more a sports girl and an AMAZING soccer player :) She is going to focus on that in the fall. She's already being recruited--because, yeah, she's that good :-)

I'm sure this isn't the last time I'll be writing. I can sense more drama in the near future and I need somewhere to vent. Until next time!